THE HYPER-ADDICTIVE, TIME-SUCKING, RELATIONSHIP-BUSTING, MIND AND HEART-CRUSHING POWER AND ALLURE OF A DYSFUNCTIONAL, CODEPENDENT RELATIONSHIP (a title borrowed and adapted from the New York Times Magazine, 04/08/12 by Sam Anderson)

By now everyone has heard of the term, “codependent”.  Since the 80’s this word has been passed down for nearly 3 decades since Melody Beattie coined the word for those folks who were addicted to the addict.  (Codependent No More)  Since its original coining, that word has morphed into many meanings, until today, when it signifies those who are involved with partners in dysfunctional relationships that are ruining their lives.  If you are in a relationship that brings you down, that causes you to feel drained, pained, anxious, worried, have a fear of abandonment, fear of being consumed, and other panic driven disorders, and feeling you can’t live with him/her or without him/her, can’t let go, but don’t want to stay, then chances are, you are in an addictive, codependent relationship. Continue reading